Keep up with the Faruqui 5
Gala shopping With the Gals!
Soraya had a BIG day today – she went shopping for a dress for the upcoming Make-A-Wish gala!
The Impact of Having a Medically Complex Child/Sibling
I think there are things that come up for us, specifically our kids Yasmeen and Leena, that really put into perspective how having a medically complex child/sibling impacts everyday things.
Palliative Care: The Big Picture
Today during our palliative care appointment we took a step back and looked at the big picture. I asked the hard questions: Where are we now? Where are we going and are we headed somewhere bad fast?
I’m a Caregiver – and I have a Chronic Illness
I am taking off my invisibility cloak – I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome! So, what does it look like to be a caregiver AND someone with a chronic illness?
Sibling Spotlight: Dealing with Assumptions
Leena had a classmate ask her, “When will Soraya heal?” This question reflects the assumption that Soraya was injured, that she can’t walk, and that she will get better. ALL of these assumptions are incorrect and painful for Leena to have to hear, let alone try to explain.
Sibling Spotlight: Unexpected Triggers
With so much happening with Soraya, one may wonder how her impacts her siblings. I wish I could say it only impacts them when BIG things happen or when it impacts Safi or I, but that isn’t the case.
Let’s Talk About Second Opinions!
How do you decide when to seek one out? How far do you go to get it?
Soraya’s Sleep Study & Tough Timing
While Soraya felt brave going into the hospital with Safi, the rest of us were weary. The feeling of her being gone was a bit haunting.
The Mental Gymnastics of Showing Up
The fatigue, planning, grief, and mental gymnastics it takes JUST to be physically present is hard.
Soraya’s Upcoming Sleep Study
Soraya’s sleep study got moved up to THIS MONDAY! Safi and I were excited...until we realized all the feelings it brings up 😥
Our Own Island
Safi and I often describe our feeling of anticipatory grief and knowing that Soraya has a shortened life as if we are on an island with just the five of us.
Addressing the Elephant in the Room
Safi took Soraya to a routine orthopedic appointment this morning for her scoliosis and hip issues. Simple enough, right?
Wrong – Grief stopped by!
Feeling Excluded at the Dinner Table…and in Life
We had a family meeting on Sunday because Soraya has been feeling excluded at the dinner table. It was HARD and emotional and beautiful all at once.
Say It, Don’t Feel It
There is NO easy way to share that your daughter is dying, so I have to get into a “Say It, Don’t Feel It” mindset.
Let’s Talk About Grief
I’ve found so much comfort and connection as we talk about grief together. These conversations have gotten me thinking a LOT about Anticipatory Grief and the Grief that one feels after the death of a loved one. It’s been really eye-opening!
Preparing Friends & Family Coming to Stay With Us
There are so many conditions that we have to share with friends and family before we have them over so they’re adequately prepared.
Christmas Day & Reflections on Change
Last Christmas is when we told Soraya that she was dying and that her undiagnosed disease had no treatment. Since then we have been treading life carrying this knowledge and weight and anticipatory grief together.
Muster, Magic, Stillness
The holidays bring up a whirlwind of emotions – three words that describe how I’m getting through this season are Muster, Magic, and Stillness.
Palliative Care Appointment Realness
We met with Soraya’s palliative care doctor today. These appointments are always incredibly tough – it almost feels like they make things more “real”.
What Do You Say to Someone Who’s Grieving?
Sometimes, people get so scared of saying the “wrong” thing to a grieving loved one that they just end up not saying anything – but that silence can be just as painful