Keep up with the Faruqui 5

Anticipatory Grief is the Spookiest Part of this Season
Halloween is under a week away and I am finally acknowledging that things are so different now than they used to be. It doesn’t feel the same, and we’ve needed to make a lot of changes to how we celebrate to come close to resembling past holidays.

Anticipatory Grief at a Child’s Memorial Service
What have been some of the best ways you’ve seen loved ones honored? Is there anything you’ve seen done for others who have passed that you’d like to one day be done for you?
Feeling Seen in Our Struggles
Cheryl Strayed once wrote, “Acceptance is a small, quiet room.” I am so grateful to have such great friends to join us in ours.

Caring for Soraya: Our Nighttime Routine
It takes a lot of work to do Soraya’s care. Here’s a look at a night of caring for her.

“Mom, What Are You Hiding From Me About Your Health?”
My original plan was to tell Soraya about my mastectomy a week before the surgery. However, she had other plans!

Happy National Previvor Day
It’s strange to go to all the cancer centers and meet all the cancer doctors when I DON’T have cancer. I feel like I don’t really belong.

Telling the Girls About My Upcoming Mastectomy
I wanted to tell Yasmeen and Leena as soon as possible. With their personalities, I knew having the time to process and prepare would help ease their anxiety.
Soraya’s Storm of Anxiety
While many times Soraya stays quiet due to her fatigue, there’s a storm of thoughts behind that facade. She’s shared with Safi and I that the thought of dying is constant. She feels her body getting weaker and now she is really missing the person she used to be...

Moving Forward With My Preventative Mastectomy
I’m quite decisive if I have facts and a decision-making matrix. It didn’t take long after my second surgical consult to know how I wanted to move forward and start putting that plan into motion.

Continuing to Weigh My Options
I was originally going to have to wait two weeks after my first reconstructive surgeon consultation before I could get in for the second consult. Waiting turned out to be a LOT harder than anticipated.

Being Greater Than Yourself
The Andy Grammer concert was filled with poetry, personal stories from the audience, acoustic music, connection, and love. Truly a sermon for my soul.
What Musician Andy Grammer Means to Us
We are SO excited to see Andy Grammer in concert in 2 days! Our whole family loves Andy. His music has gotten us through our darkest times and given us our BEST memories.

Weighing My Surgical Options
I made it through my first reconstructive plastic surgeon consultation for my future preventative bilateral mastectomy.

Prioritizing Self-Care as a Caretaker
Life does not give us a pause button so we must create one.

Why Did I Get Genetic Testing?
It’s been a week since I shared my genetic testing results and subsequent decision to get a preventative bilateral mastectomy...

Blindsided By My Genetic Testing Results
At my routine Well Women exam, I was flagged to undergo genetic testing due to my familial cancer history...and it came back positive.


The Annual Sibling Symposium at Cincinnati Children’s
We look forward to this event every year. However, this year's symposium was tougher than others we’ve attended.
Why is Soraya Always Wearing Bandages?
Many of you have asked (or wondered 😉) why Soraya is always wearing bandaids on her forehead, arms, and legs...

The Sting of Back to School
I keep thinking – how did we go from buying school supplies to installing stair lifts so Soraya can access the different floors of our home?